Relationships are hard, anyone who has been in one would agree. The way to deal with relationships is to 1) get help when they become difficult. How you talk to your partner is important. Are you constantly belittling him/her? Do you use sarcasm, criticism, stonewalling or contempt when talking to your partner? If you do, there is a 97% chance that eventually you will split up. No relationship can stand to be together having those 4 qualities for a length of time. So how do we combat it if those items exist? There are proven techniques that I have to help you with this problem.
Do you have "harsh start up?"
Do you tell your partner "You always OR you never!"
This is considered harsh start up and will automatically make your partner become defensive.
How the argument will go is determined in the first 6 seconds of how the conversation is started. How can a relationship possibly survive if you are constantly using harsh start up? In our sessions we will go over harsh start up versus soften start up and you will see a dramatic difference in the way you treat each other and respond to each other within a matter of minutes.
Do you have "harsh start up?"
Do you tell your partner "You always OR you never!"
This is considered harsh start up and will automatically make your partner become defensive.
How the argument will go is determined in the first 6 seconds of how the conversation is started. How can a relationship possibly survive if you are constantly using harsh start up? In our sessions we will go over harsh start up versus soften start up and you will see a dramatic difference in the way you treat each other and respond to each other within a matter of minutes.